Power through the people
Have you come across a person
who is so naturally
friendly that when you put him
inside a room
of strangers, he'll be friends
with almost
everyone in no time? We call
such a people-person,
someone unbelievably nice and
charismatic
that he can charm anyone into
doing anything.
A socially-empowered person achieves
so much
greatness, basically because
of the people
that catapult him to success.
He earns the
trust and all-out support of
the people,
whom he had helped before. He
never runs
out of help. He can do anything
with the
plethora of people behind him.
All because
he knows he maximizes his social
potential!
See, if you know your social
skills and you
make use of them, you will reach
self-empowerment.
Self-empowerment is making a
general overhaul
in your life and turning yourself
into a
happier and more successful person.If
you
can be one of those people-persons,
then
I can't see any reason why you
will not succeed.
You just have to know how to
start.
1. Be genuine.
Hypocrisy will just bring you
all the way
down. Be genuinely nice and interested
to
people. Once they perceive that
you are Mr.
Hypocrite with selfish intentions,
you might
as well say goodbye to self-empowerment.
2. Be the greatest listener that
you can
be.
To earn the love and trust of
the people,
listen to their problems and
sympathize with
them. Do not just hear them out,
listen to
them with your heart. Make eye
contact when
the person talks to you. Listen
as if every
word matters, and it does. Brownie
points
when they find out that there
is a confidante
in you.
3. Laugh out loud.
I do not mean that you force
yourself to
laugh for every joke cracked
by someone,
albeit you do not find it funny
at all.This
means finding humor in things
and not being
too darn serious. A person oozing
with an
awesome sense of humor attracts
crowds and
eventually, attracts success.
4. Don't forget yourself.
In the process of fluttering
around like
a social butterfly, you might
forget yourself,
allowing everyone to push you
over. Remember,
love and value yourself before
anyone else.
If you deem yourself respectable
and worthy
of affection, people will flock
to you and
not trample on you.
5. Do random acts of kindness.
You don't have to do a John Rockefeller
and
blow your savings to charity.
Little acts
of kindness matters the most,
and this can
be as simple as giving someone
a surprise
you-take-care card or helping
an elderly
cross the street. When we were
kindergarten
students, kindness was taught
to us and greatly
practiced. Now is the time to
revive the
good deeds and this time, let
them stay for
good.
6. Contact your old friends.
Sad how some friendships are
destined to
goodbye, but thanks to technology,
you can
do something about it. Relive
the good old
days by flipping your yearbook
and look for
the great people whom you want
to communicate
with again. Adding these old
friends to your
roster of support peers will
surely make
you feel good all over.
7. Develop your personality.
Are you grouchy, grumpy and generally
morose?
Whoa, you can't go through life
with those.
Get rid of the bad traits and
habits that
perpetually hamper your growth.
And really,
who wants a grouchy friend anyway?
8. Be confident.
Be able to stride to the other
corner of
the room and introduce yourself
to people
with that winning smile of yours.
Just remember:
be confident, not arrogant.
9. Practice control.
When angry, don't snap at anyone.
Never throw
a tantrum. Stay calm and collected.
Be adult
enough to take control of situation
and transform
your anger into something more
productive
and passive. As soon as people
think your
anger goes to volcanic proportions
easily,
they will find it hard to come
to you.
10. Keep nurturing your relationships.
Your relationship with your family,
friends
and significant others is too
precious that
you must not neglect it whatever
happens.
Go out and have fun with them.
Do things
together. Happiness will never
fly from your
side as long as the people who
matter the
most are close to you.
In the end, using people for
self-empowerment
means becoming a better and more
lovable
person. It's a win-win situation:
the people
know they can turn to you anytime
and vice
versa.
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