BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM, A STARTER GUIDE TO
SELF IMPROVEMENT
So how do you stay calm, composed
and maintain
self esteem in a tough environment?
Here
are some tips you may to consider
as a starter
guide to self improvement.
Imagine yourself as a Dart Board.
Everything
and everyone else around you
may become Dart
Pins, at one point or another.
These dart
pins will destroy your self esteem
and pull
you down in ways you won’t even
remember.
Don’t let them destroy you, or
get the best
of you. So which dart pins should
you avoid?
Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory
where everyone
else is fighting just to get
ahead. This
is where non-appreciative people
usually
thrive. No one will appreciate
your contributions
even if you miss lunch and dinner,
and stay
up late. Most of the time you
get to work
too much without getting help
from people
concerned. Stay out of this,
it will ruin
your self esteem. Competition
is at stake
anywhere. Be healthy enough to
compete, but
in a healthy competition that
is.
Dart Pin #2: Other People’s Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers,
whiners, backstabbers, snipers,
people walking
wounded, controllers, naggers,
complainers,
exploders, patronizers, sluffers…
all these
kinds of people will pose bad
vibes for your
self esteem, as well as to your
self improvement
scheme.
Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment
You can’t be a green bug on a
brown field.
Changes challenge our paradigms.
It tests
our flexibility, adaptability
and alters
the way we think. Changes will
make life
difficult for awhile, it may
cause stress
but it will help us find ways
to improve
our selves. Change will be there
forever,
we must be susceptible to it.
Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!”
when we
experience pain. But don’t let
pain transform
itself into fear. It might grab
you by the
tail and swing you around. Treat
each failure
and mistake as a lesson.
Dart Pin #5: Negative World View
Look at what you’re looking at.
Don’t wrap
yourself up with all the negativities
of
the world. In building self esteem,
we must
learn how to make the best out
of worst situations.
Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral
traits
is said to be a mixed end product
of your
inherited traits (genetics),
your upbringing
(psychic), and your environmental
surroundings
such as your spouse, the company,
the economy
or your circle of friends. You
have your
own identity. If your father
is a failure,
it doesn’t mean you have to be
a failure
too. Learn from other people’s
experience,
so you’ll never have to encounter
the same
mistakes.
Sometimes, you may want to wonder
if some
people are born leaders or positive
thinkers.
NO. Being positive, and staying
positive
is a choice. Building self esteem
and drawing
lines for self improvement is
a choice, not
a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t
come down
from heaven and tell you – “George,
you may
now have the permission to build
self esteem
and improve your self.”
In life, its hard to stay tough
specially
when things and people around
you keep pulling
you down. When we get to the
battle field,
we should choose the right luggage
to bring
and armors to use, and pick those
that are
bullet proof. Life’s options
give us arrays
of more options. Along the battle,
we will
get hit and bruised. And wearing
a bullet
proof armor ideally means ‘self
change’.
The kind of change which comes
from within.
Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change
changes
3 things: our attitude, our behavior
and
our way of thinking.
Building self esteem will eventually
lead
to self improvement if we start
to become
responsible for who we are, what
we have
and what we do. Its like a flame
that should
gradually spread like a brush
fire from inside
and out. When we develop self
esteem, we
take control of our mission,
values and discipline.
Self esteem brings about self
improvement,
true assessment, and determination.
So how
do you start putting up the building
blocks
of self esteem? Be positive.
Be contented
and happy. Be appreciative. Never
miss an
opportunity to compliment. A
positive way
of living will help you build
self esteem,
your starter guide to self improvement.
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